Me? Lose my temper?

[Starr Luteri-Hicks]

Can the pastor's wife lose her temper? Probably not without repercussions. I've heard of preachers losing their jobs after the wife loses her temper, so it's definitely an issue. What the heck do you do when you really want to raise heck? Safely, I mean.

[Connie Cash]

Lose my temper? Never! Okay, I lose it when I get home by myself, or with MDH, or somewhere else that is defined as "misplaced anger." I've never quite found that time when the members could deal with the pastor's wife losing her cool (apparently others can, just not us)! I've been close to losing it in church, probably have shown extreme irritation. I've hung up the phone and burst into tears after talking with my psychotic parsonage chairperson. I've also thrown a container against the wall when the lid was stuck. I'm thinking that was some more misplaced anger! The church repaired the sheetrock when we moved. How did that get there? Hmmmm....

[JBJONES]

Some people need to vent - if my position is the one vented on then please - you may vent on me. I am double stamped as a minister's spouse and a high school counselor. Since graduation season is now in full swing I can tell you than some high school graduate parents are worse than some bride mothers. I remember a parent of a student, that never told me which scholarship package of the three he received, he accepted was insistent that it was my mistake to not announcing the full-ride scholarship.
Even his friends state he acknowledged he never told me which one he chose.
Breathe in – breathe out – move on. If apparent needs to vent in order to retain the power they believe they possess then so be it – breath in – breathe out – move on.
I learned early on in life that my personal venting can get me into big pools of trouble so I try really hard to not allow myself to get into that position. I have not LOST my temper in over 40 years. I've come close many times but I remember the last time and realize that I do not need to allow my temper to control my life. I need to control my life and live in the here and now as the future and then is near always. Life is uncertain and as my mother told me in childhood - never go to bed mad - you sleep poorly. So as we recognize the frailty of life it is important to not let TEMPER get CONTROL of life - I need to be in control of my life with my God as my Lord and mentor in order to serve the life He wants for me.
Breathe in - breathe out - move on. If the cause of my wanting to lose my temper is not me - then someone else is trying to take control of my life who is not my Lord.

[Starr Luteri-Hicks]

You know what I'd LIKE to lose my temper about? Fussy old women who chase the kids away from the cookies in Fellowship Hall after church. Yeah, great idea, teach the children that they aren't welcome! %#$@! What's so hard about setting out MORE COOKIES????
Worse, worse, worse... it's the Anglo old women fussing at the little Mexican boys. I confronted one this week, couldn't make a dent in her concrete attitude. "Those kids . . ." she says. Hey! Those are OUR kids!
It's three days later, and I'm still steaming.

[Linda Kargard]

I've had dear sweet people confront kids and their parents and tell them that their kids shouldn't make so much noise during church and if they can't control their kids, maybe they should go elsewhere. GOOD, HUH. Needless to say, it rather discourages growth in the church. And people wonder where are all the children? Talk about angry.......ooooo.

[Starr Luteri-Hicks]

Oh dear Lord- yep, that pretty much explains why the church doesn't have any young families.
MDH has been known to pick up a child and incorporate the interruption in to his sermon. Parents love it and the congregation is charmed.